He May Be Non-Committal, But That Doesn't Mean He Doesn't Like You
I need you to understand one thing: Men and women think differently. Once we grasp this, all dating problems worldwide will be solved. But then I'd be out of a blog, so...
Just because a situation makes sense to you, does not mean it makes the same kind of sense to your manly mate.
Here's a "for instance" to consider. You've been dating for a few months and spending an exTRAORDINARY amount of time together. Nothing's wrong--on the contrary, everything's damn near perfect--but nothing's really moving forward either...
There are a few options to ponder. But here's what I don't want you to do: I don't want you to immediately dive into that self-doubting, self-deprecating, he's-just-not-into-me place. Because you don't belong there.
You really think that he'd spend THIS much time on the phone with you (remember, guys hate chatting incessantly. Haaaaate it.)?
You think he'd hang out with you this much? Spend so much of his precious chill-with-the-boys-and-cruise-chicks free time on you?
You think he doesn't feel that connection? You think his mind isn't blown after every 5-hour conversation you have, the ease with which you hang and the intensity of your sexual attraction?
Girl, you cray.
If he was totally, completely, 100% not into you, you would not be hearing from him this much. If the opportunity came up (ha, see what I did there?), he would have banged you and then been all, BYE, BOO. BYE!
But I understand where you're getting tripped up. In your mind, it makes total sense that if the connection is strong and he's feeling you and you're digging him and everything's clicking, that of COURSE you two would eventually, preferably sooner-rather-than-later become committed to one another. It's almost impossible to find this feeling--so the logical thing is to lock it up, right?
Eh, not exactly.
A guy has to figure out where you fit in his life, and even if you're his dream girl--like, checking every item off of his relationship resume requirements, more beautiful than he ever thought possible, makes him want to be a better person dream girl--if he's not ready for you, guess who's not getting to the next level of commitment?
<----- This girl. Yup.
Your Venus is all, "What's the hold-up, brah?" And his Mars is like, [sheepishly raises hand] "Sorry, doll."
Because even though you're amazing (trust me, he is fully aware), there is something else in his mind that doesn't click, and--here's the big takeaway--this really doesn't have anything to do with you.
It could be that he's scared of being vulnerable with you.
His job has him flying all over the country every week.
It could be timing (I've been tryna tell ya...).
He doesn't feel like he could give you what you need and deserve.
Hey, I mean, maybe he has a girlfriend.
But it's not because he's not into you. Knock that nonsense off.
You know that you're wonderful and he'd be crazy not to be all over THIS. Whatever else he has to work out? Well, that's on him. Do not--I repeat, DO NOT--internalize this as you being unworthy on any level. Don't be silly.