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- So Ronda Rousey did something spectacular again. Shocker. On Monday, the UFC champ announced her new t-shirt line campaigning her now-ubiquitous quote "Don't Be a #DNB." What's a DNB, you ask? A "Do Nothing B*tch," which, according to Ronda, goes something like this:
"I have this one term for the kind of woman my mother raised me to not be, and I call it a do nothing b----. A DNB. The kind of chick that just tries to be pretty and be taken care of by someone else," she says. "That's why I think it's hilarious if my body looks masculine or something like that. Listen, just because my body was developed for a purpose other than f------ millionaires doesn't mean it's masculine. I think it's femininely badass as f--- because there's not a single muscle on my body that isn't for a purpose, because I'm not a do nothing b----."
And some of the more misinformed mindsets dissented, saying that "'Do nothing bitch' already needs to go. Its just another phrase that pits women against each other.....nexxxxt" and then tried to cover it up.
Let's all get one thing straight before we binge-watch the next episode of Orange Is The New Black, Season 2: No one can be pitted against another unless she allows it. And that is on the individual to have enough self-love, self-respect, and self-awareness to not allow that to happen. No one is forcing woman-on-woman hate -- if that's how a woman reacts to a message, a quote, a slogan, an action, etc., that's her own choice and an issue she needs to address. She needs to turn inward and figure out why said message is triggering that response. A woman who is 110% happy and fulfilled and is living her life's purpose while being what may look like a "DNB" (maybe she doesn't have a job but she takes care of the children, she runs the home, she helps her man with the business) isn't going to be bothered by Ronda's comments. Because she is happy and is sure of herself. A woman who is not, who is insecure about her position, who is lying to herself, is allowing herself to be abused, is staying in a toxic relationship, is codependent on her millionaire is going to have a much different, defensive reaction. So, it's not the deliverer of the message that needs to be silenced, it's the receiver who needs to open to the message she's hearing. If it resonates, go with it. Listen to your intuition that's telling you something needs to change. Then work out a plan to change it. Oh, and then there's the bit about how all proceeds of this shirt go to the Didi Hirsch Mental Health Services Centre, which helps women with mental health and body image issues. Ronda: 1, Dissenters: 0 (yup, I just pitted you against Ronda, and she's got a belt, so...)
- A new beauty trend, which is a helluva loose translation if you ask me, has taken Korea and Japan by storm. It's, in fact, the opposite of a beauty trend, but merely another disturbing attempt to reclaim lost years in an area of the world that's willing to go to extremes (eye surgery is, like, a given) when it comes to their looks. The real sad thing? Is that many of these girls are still very much in the prime of their youth. This is a layered, complicated discussion with a LOT of cultural layers. You can read more about it here, here and here. And then try not to throw up in your mouth.
- And then this happened... Stuff, a site over in New Zealand, posted this piece stating that "We love this journalist who shows what real women would look like in top fashion ads." And this is where you lose me.
The problem is not the striking difference the photographer Nathalie Croquet would like to draw between the two sets of images. The problem is not that the women she's up against (if that's how we are to look at it) are beautiful, or held to a certain standard of beauty even -- while there's no diversity in skin tone, observe the diversity in facial features. The issue Nathalie Croquet should be taking with these images is how much they've been photoshopped or not (hint: they have). If Natalie underwent the same amount of photoshopping as some of these women, the results of this experiment / art project / performance piece would be different. It wouldn't be so jarring, as she wants us to observe. But without stripping these fashion images down to that common denominator, Nathalie doesn't establish an even playing field. So, with that in mind, I'm not sure what message she's really sending. Without portraying these models, actresses and muses without photoshop, we have no real representation against which to compare Nathalie. And that is exactly what she is asking us to do -- compare -- by presenting side-by-side shots. Without that barometer, Nathalie's statement only seems to dehumanize the women next to whom she stands and parodies, signifying that they themselves are not real, when in fact, they most certainly are. It does us (women) a huge disservice to ignore, discredit, or alienate the real women behind the photoshopped images. Plastic surgery aside (which, remember, many "average" women have had as well), they, too, are real . It's the images they've been manipulated into that are not. Let us never forget that.
- That's enough from me. Go peep Serena Williams doing the damn thang in this week's New York Magazine, in which she talks about her fashion business on HSN, racism and sexism. Gotta love that woman.