New Year, New Opportunities To Be Your Self-Loving Self

Welp. We made it, kids. Here we are, about to say DEUCES to 2013 and staring down the barrel at another year full of potential and possibilities.

Did everyone survive the past 12 months? Are we army-crawling out of the ditch? Yeah...

This may or may not have been one of the BIGGEST years of my life. Huge. Massive. (That’s what she said?). Not just because it was the final year of my 20’s (which just transitioned three days ago--I can’t even begin to process), but mostly because I catapulted myself through several stages of exponential growth. And it. Was. Exhausting. I feel a lot of you have perhaps done the same.

But I’m thankful. I learned a lot. Like, a LOT. Including:

  • There are no rules when you’re in love. But you will be forced to determine how much you’re willing to overlook.
  • Sometimes you can only take yourself so far. There’s no shame in asking for help.
  • Enrique Iglesias and I had a moment—which means I still got it, whut, whut!
  • Patience is truly a virtue (one I’m apparently lacking). You master this, and you master men.
  • Diane von Furstenberg is the f*cking woman. She is a prime example of what we're about here at The Self-Love Formula and will forever motivate me to “Be the woman I want to be.”
  • Everything looks better (and radically different) at 29. Don’t be afraid to revise your identity/goals/beliefs/desires as you go.
  • Tinder is for tots.
  • You’ll let it go when you’re ready, when you realize that you can’t get to where you’re going if you don’t.
  • When you don’t know what to do, do nothing. There’s strength in stillness.
  • Date a guy with a driver. It will change your life.
  • Continually ask yourself, how does this serve me long-term?
  • Listen to your intuition, even if your friends think she’s cray cray.
  • You. Are. Loved.

Now, on the matter of this next year: Let’s talk resolutions.

A resolution is a decision to act, to find determination to do something, perhaps to take action to resolve one of your pesky dating problems.

But this isn’t about “fixing” what’s lacking in your (love) life. It’s about getting RULL clear on how you want to feel this year (and then doing stuff that actually makes you feel that way, obvs). So, instead of writing them as resolutions, let’s swap ‘em out for intentions.

Some sample SLF-worthy New Year’s intentions (easy, I’m about to get woo-woo in  3…2…1…):

  • I feel supported now that I’m in a conscious, open, loving, committed relationship with my true love.
  • I am willing to risk what’s necessary to be in an intimate relationship.
  • I am willing and able to step into my true, authentic self.
  • I feel loved unconditionally now that I’m expressing my whole self.
  • I am willing to give and receive unconditional love.
  • I feel fulfilled now that I have started a healthy, happy family.
  • I feel confidant now that I am receiving infinite wealth from my service work.
  • I am thrilled now that I am a best-selling, published author.
  • I feel free now that I am traveling the world.
  • I feel comfortable in my own skin.

How are you gonna rock this year?

Here’s to 2k14. May it be soul-shatteringly, joyfully, beautifully, painfully, hopefully, blissfully, purposefully love-filled.