Infographic Fun: If You're Doing This, Your Relationship Is In Trouble
Apparently, the good folks over at My.com, a mobile email provider, conducted a national survey of about 600 Americans (a relatively small sample size, but we'll go with it) around dating and email usage. Really, it just seems to have called out the less-than-positive side of human behavior when people get insecure in their relationship, and focuses all on snooping and hacking into your significant other's email account in an attempt to catch him or her cheating.
So that's just great.
The sad thing is, this is a very real occurrence. Hell, I've done the digital snoop once before (and I will never be able to unsee what I found...). It didn't involve a espionage-style hack, just a simple web history search that divulged all that I needed. The thing is, I already knew what I was going to find.
And that's the problem with snooping. You're only doing it for one of two reasons:
1) You're harboring some deep-seated insecurities and letting those neuroses get the best of you and your decision making.
2) Your always-on-point intuition is telling you something's not right, and despite all your best efforts to ignore it, it's gotten to the point that you now feel compelled to find evidence to support your hunch.
I was in the latter category. Neither are great places to be. Either way you slice it, none of the above relationship situations are healthy. If you're insecure in the relationship that it's driving you to the point of anxiety, there's some self-evaluation that needs to take place. What's triggering your reaction? Is this a real threat, or are you bringing your past painful experiences into your present relationship? Are you really ready to be in an intimate relationship or is there some serious self-healing that should be happening instead? Is this relationship serving you positively? What's the lesson here?
And if your intuition is telling you to get the eff out, you should probably get the eff out.
Bottom line, snooping signals a relationship S.O.S.
If you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship.
Also troublesome is one of the findings highlighted all the way at the bottom of the infographic. See where it says almost 1 in 5 people believe it's cool to end a relationship over email? NO. THIS IS NOT OK. Stop it with this nonsense. Be an adult. Have the conversation.
In case you were wondering, 31% of the respondents were Millennials (aged 18-34).
And to you 2% who casually "don't remember" whether you've snooped, I'm side-eyeing you so hard right now.
Happy Infographic-Fun Friday!